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Friday, November 8, 2013

A Daily Occurrence

I think I have previously written that not a day would go by that I wouldn't think about my surrogate, "Chloe."  I said it because it felt like the right thing to say at the time.  I said it because it seemed deep and sentimental.  I said it because it was a good way to end a blog entry.

Now, 19+ months after my amazing surrogate delivered two great boys, I can say it again because I know it's the truth.

I don't know if every IP feels this way.  I hear about some IPs who cut off contact with their surrogates after delivery.  When the contract is done some parents feel no need to stay in touch with a woman who forever changed their lives.  I don't understand that.  I know some of the reasons for that happening, but I knew it wasn't right for me. 

I swear that I look at my kids and constantly thank the universe for connecting me with my surrogate as well as my lawyer, agencies and egg donor.  My Facebook friends are doing a daily gratitude status for the month of November.  Can I just cheat a little and say that for the next 30 days having Chloe in my life is what makes me grateful?  Well, maybe she gets 29 days of thanks and the grandparents, who visit and let Derek and me have a date night once every few months, should get a day of thanks too.  Chloe stuck with me through all the ups and downs, traveled far for doctor appointments, welcomed Derek into the picture, allowed me to be at all the appointments (and even let my parents see an ultrasound), came to the baby shower with adorable hats for the kids, still loves to read about what they're up to on Facebook and is an all around great lady.  I really do think about her daily even on those days when I'm dealing with random dirty diapers on the floor, exhausting story times, crazy bath time, breaking the law, dirty diaper issues, and general parenthood woes. 


  1. So touching, Michael. Melts my heart. XO

  2. As surrogates... I think most of us are hoping for a Michael. :)

  3. Very sweet, Michael! I agree with a surrogate, we all hope for an IP like you!

  4. It is so sweet to hear that. I know my first IP's would agree. I am always honored when I get a email asking how we're doing, or a picture message from the baby!

  5. Great post! Been reading a lot about different surrogacy situations recently. Thanks for the info!

  6. I just read you blog and felt the need to say thank you for writing this. We are going through our own surrogacy journey as IP's and hit a big bump in the road. I was needing some inspiration and hope and you gave that to me. So...thank you :)